The ways of winning?

Why winning……..

Do we have to win?

Do we have to get to the finishing line first?…

NO, ……what I would like to get into  are the ideas which inhabit our heads and manipulate us on a subconscious level.

The psychology of the mind is a vast and stormy ocean, yet a journey out into those waters need not be dangerous or even frightening , it could even be looked upon as an adventure.  So, if you bring a little curiosity to the table, I would love to set my sails and take you on a quick spin into some interesting territories.

We win, if we achieve what it is that we are aiming for or heading towards, the way we experience this can be quite different and its these different aspects of personally experienced achievement we will get into.

The first category of person defines their happiness and primary goal in the general feeling of being comfortable. Yes the comfort zone is well established, the routines are polished the rut is deep and familiar. They are content with how things are, don’t rock the boat, my status quote is achieved and anything else is regarded with amused scepticism or interested disrespect  for change is not part of the greater plan. Call them phlegmatic if you like as they make up a large portion of the population pie.

The second category of individuals primary sence of achievement lies on the necessity of being liked. Yes, liked  accepted and recognised by colleagues, family and friends. They will almost do anything to be liked,even if it means  compromising themselves. In a leadership role this person would hit bumpy ground fast, as leaders need to make decisions which also displease.

The third category belongs to those who always need to be right. This unthankful role is oft found in professionals like lawyers, doctors, academics and others, who in the one on one often talk endlessly and find no end. They define their win, by always being right and always knowing better. We have  met these folk who are at first  interesting but inevitably become boring.

The fourth category belongs to the winners. Those who actually do come first in the race, first in the class, first in the competition. They are motivated and inspired by the burning desire to challenge themselves. They win by mentally engaging themselves as their own opponents, and striving to redefine their own boundaries. The successful entrepreneur, athlete, student finds the fulfilment in being first. Winning is the reward, as it enables a dynamic self-evaluation. Discomfort is part of the equation, it is the challenge  which motivates and defines the feeling of the win.

The fifth category are those who win by losing. Ummm, ya by losing, or by seeing themselves in the role of the victim who needs to be comforted , supported and cared for.  This is a hard way to win, yet the psyche puts us in this unthankful role to enable others to give us attention and love.

To win equals comfort.

To win equals being liked

To win equals being right.

To win equals winning.

To win equals losing.

Having shared this small journey into the vast and at times stormy sea of the mind you can now evaluate how necessary it becomes to take your own personal development extremely seriously when embarking on the task of being successful with your own home business.

To win you will need to share value, to share value you can share your own experience of growth. I have lived in the mind-set of winning by being liked and also by losing for a large part of my life, can you recognise yourself in one or more of these aspects?

The journey I’m now on is a new exciting one and it is wonderful to be able to share this.

Looking forward to your comments and observations as well.


Focus on the Focus; the Art of achieving your Goals


Focus on the Focus
the Art of achieving your Goals

Would I be wrong to say that most of us Network Marketers MLM Marketers who earn a living online all experience a similar sense of overload when we check out our mail box or open our Face Book account?
This sheer flood of interesting information; Alerts; Messages, Offers and Applications, can leave us spinning.
What to go for?, What to respond to?, How to prioritize?, What to dump?, Which new exciting offer to get involved with?
Well there is a solution, has 4 letters and begins with P……
Got it?
We simply have to Plan. We simply use this plan as means to focus, then we get really serious and we focus on the focus!
SO what is the plan?
It will begin with you writing down your GOALS. Not difficult when you break your Goals down into different Areas.
Step 1. Your Business Goals ( for the Year, the Quarter, the Month, the Day)
Step2.Your Personal Goals ( for the Year, the Quarter, the Month, the Day)
Step3. Your Family Goals ( for the Year, the Quarter, the Month, the Day)
Step 4. Etc…
So now what?
These Goals need an ACTION PLAN to make them happen!
SO what is the Action Plan?

The Action Plan, is the list of activities which you line up to achieve the Goals which you have set. Resulting in Achieved Work and Effective Time Management, day by day.
You know exactly where you are going with your business and the information overload which comes pouring in day by day, hour by hour is no longer a distraction, but now you scan the content sifting out the pertinent information required to achieve the set Goal.
A Few Ideas:
How many hours a week will I be working?
How much do ya want to earn per month?
How big is my marketing budget?
How big should your team be?
How many prospects do you want to take to the next conference?
How big should your customer base be?
What residual income do you want to achieve in the long run?

These are a few questions which you, as a home based Marketer NEED to know, and have to have the answers to.
The only way to get those answers is to create a specific, Detailed & Focused plan.
Quote, “When you deal with your business like a hobby, you will be remunerated like a hobby, it will cost you money!”
You are in this game to make money; it’s a job and the better Focused you are the MORE money you will earn. Be the focused Professional that you ARE!
When we focus, and carry out the ACTION plan then not only do we achieve the goals but unexpectedly along the way we are confronted with synchronicity, the unexpected little things which begin to fit the greater puzzle, bringing us closer and closer to the BIG goal.
This is what I mean “FOCUS on the FOCUS!”
Should ya get off track, hey, just get back on again, things change, we just readjust the plan, the goals, but we are Focused, Aware, Awake, Alive and heading for a known Destination.
It is a great exciting intense game, these are some of the ground rules to train into your habits and those of your team.
More are coming.